.Self Esteem and Self Disclosure

Self esteem and self disclosure are additional ways in which we understand our identity , our self concept , and become more aware of who we are and why we are the way we are . One thing to consider about self-esteem is that it is a value that we place on ourself .

Self-esteem and self disclosure 

 It involves a total evaluation of our self-worth based on our past experiences . In cases , when we start with a positive self-esteem , high positive self-esteem , we enter , enter into a positive cycle where we believe we can do things .

And because of that self-esteem , we continue to do them .

A negative cycle can have the opposite effect . If we believe that we can not do things , we act as if that is the case and therefore we end up not being able to achieve certain things and fostering more of a low self-esteem .

This idea is paramount in what is called self-fulfilling prophecy  . 

This can happen in most situations.

 It always starts with a central belief . You believe something to be true about yourself , and then you expect certain things to happen based on those beliefs . So you have expectations about this situation because of those expectations . You act in a certain way . You use and maintain certain behaviors based on your expectations about the belief as that occurs .

You begin to see results that occur based on the behavior that you have employed .

And those resort results reinforce the beliefs that you have about yourself . So , for example , you might say that I am really bad at math and Duarte taking a college algebra class and you feel that you are not good at college algebra . You never have been . You never will be . 

You yourself believe that this is true. 

The belief is I am bad a college algebra or math in general , and I expect not to succeed in the course .

So that belief influences my expectations about how or if I will succeed in the class . Then I act on those expectations . For example , maybe there is an exam coming up and you feel that because you are bad at math . You either don't study at all or as you're studying , you stress the entire time you study and therefore you behave in a negative way . And in results , you end up doing poorly on the test because either you were stressed the entire time and so didn't really retain any information or maybe you procrastinated on studying .

Or maybe it wasn't that maybe you didn't study at all because you knew , well , hey , I'm going to fail anyway . Why waste my time studying for something that I'm going to fail at ? So that result reinforces the belief that you originally had about yourself . 

So these things are constant cyclical patterns that can happen in both positive and negative situations . The example I just gave you was a negative situation . However , if you say have a growth mindset , you may believe that you can achieve things that you previously were unable to achieve , or you can even look at it from a very general standpoint and believe you're good at something and therefore act as if you're good at it .

And again , achieve so self-fulfilling prophecy can be a major part of how we experience our life and where we come to the conclusion of what our self esteem is , how we view our experiences , and subsequently how we identify ourselves based on labels that we achieve through things like the self-fulfilling prophecy . 

Now , in addition to protheses and self-esteem , we have self disclosure , and this is a pretty simple concept most of us fully understand . There is this sense of self disclosure in all relationships .

Some experience certain parts of self disclosures , while others experience something quite different . For example , if you've ever seen the movie Shrek , you may have noticed that in that film or in that movie , there was a scene where Shrek is describing ogre's to be like onions . And he says these ogres have layers . Well , if you think about it , self disclosure works in that way . We have broad layers of self disclosing information on the outside , just like in an onion .

We have the thinnest , most transparent . The flaky is the easiest to give away . Right .

If you've ever pick it up , picked up an onion from a grocery store , you know that that outer casing is very fragile . It's very simple . You can see right through it . Oftentimes it'll flake away at just any old thing . So that is very broad self disclosure . It is the stuff that you don't mind giving away . It's your hair color . For some , it is your likes and dislikes on a general term . It's your favorite TV show .

It's things like that , very simple , broad transparence . They transparent things . But as you get further into the layer , as you peel back the pieces of the onion . If you've ever cooked with onion before , you know that as you get closer to the center , those . Layers get thicker , they get tougher , they're more difficult to peel back and they're more pungent . To be perfectly honest , they smell stronger . In some cases , they might even make you cry .

So that self disclosure is the depth . The further in you go , the more intimate the self disclosure , the harder it is to give away and the more impactful it is to those around you . That may be your childhood experiences . 

Maybe you were abused as a child . Maybe you have a drug addiction . Maybe you lost a family member . All of those would be considered very deep self disclosing information . So there is a breath and a depth to our self disclosure .

Now , self disclosure can have benefits and risks , things that are positive and things that are risky about disclosing information . The benefits of disclosure in a given relationship , pneuma are numerous in nature . You can feel a sense of cathartic feelings based on the disclosing of information . Or what that means is that you feel like you've released a pressure . It relaxes you to disclose the information . Maybe you've been holding back that information for a long time .

And so giving it away , disclosing it to your friend , your family member or whomever allows you to feel a sense of peace . Maybe it's reciprocity , the next one on here , and that is that I want to give self disclosure in hopes that I will get self disclosure . 

So I reveal information about myself in order to get information back . Another one might be self clarification . If you've ever talked our season , we thought outloud that might be a form of self clarification .

If you voice the self disclosure , you are able to , in some cases to more appropriately and effectively clarify your mindset , your perception of a certain situation . Another might be self-help Dacian , if you have ever revealed information to another person in hopes that they would say . Good job , I agree . 

            

It was the right choice you made.

 That would be a form of self validation . Another might be to manage your identity . If you reveal certain things about yourself , you are allowing people to believe things to be true .

So you've got that presenting self out there . You are believing or sees me . You are omitting information in hopes that it will present a certain picture of who you are . Another might be relationship maintenance and enhancement .

 If you reveal information , you hope that that will cause a little bit more intimacy within the relationship or allow you to feel close to that person . And then finally , social influence . If you reveal information about yourself , say some form of success or some connection you have .

You could potentially receive a social influence . Now , in addition to the benefits , you have risks .

           

Benefits And risk 

You could be rejected by the person based on what you said , you could form a negative impression . Maybe you thought that you would be perceived a certain way , but in all actuality , they are completely different from you and therefore see you now negatively . Say it was a political belief . 

You feel your you present your political belief and they end up being somebody completely different from you . It could decrease relational satisfaction . Again ,

 if you reveal stuff that could cause problems ,

 maybe feelings that they didn't recognize , that could cause negative experiences , that could decrease relational satisfaction , or if you refuse to reveal information that all also could be a form of relational satisfaction decrease in that loss of influence .

If you reveal information that is taken negatively , they might see you in a negative light and feel like you could no longer be a positive influence and hurting the other person . What you revealed to them might feel make them feel bad . So all of these are risks of self disclosure .